Steve Eighinger

On Mother's Day, I was a very proud father

By Herald-Whig
Posted: May. 15, 2018 8:40 am

I know Mother's Day has come and gone, but please bear with me for some reflections.

One of the three girls I have the pleasure of calling a daughter was able to celebrate her first Mother's Day as a part of what she termed "the club." Kaysi and husband Bruce had their first child three months ago, so Sunday was her first Mother's Day as a mom.

Over the last dozen or so years, Kaysi had watched as sisters Sarah and Melissa brought a combined four children -- Grady, Tommy, Matthew and Ella -- into the world, and she has loved them all like her own.

Now, Kaysi actually does have a child of her own, and Mother's Day was a little extra special for her.

Very, very special.

On Mother's Day, Kaysi wrote a letter to her infant daughter, Maddie Jane. It was a heartfelt correspondence that I know Maddie will one day cherish, and it will probably maker her cry.

Just like it did me.

Kaysi wrote:

"My sweet Maddie girl ... you are the greatest gift I've ever received.

"Everyone always told me, ‘You think you know what love is -- until you have a child,' and I get it now.

"Looking at you makes my heart so full of love I think it might explode, but then the next day I get to wake up to your smiles and somehow I'm able to fit in even more love.

"I've only been your mommy for three months, but I don't even remember life before you. Life has so much more meaning now that you're in it.

"You are the center of my world, my little angel. I can't wait to continue to watch you grow, but please don't do it too fast.

"I'll love you forever .... As long as I'm living, my baby you'll be."

Kaysi's remarks not only made me proud, but made me think of all the love my own mother had shown to me for so many years, and all of the sacrifices she made.

What I will remember most of all that my own mom did for me was allow me to pursue what I wanted to be. Not only allow, but encourage.

I told my mom one day in junior high I wanted to be a writer, much to the chagrin of many other members of my family, who openly made fun of me. To this day, I still admire them all greatly, but their professions simply did not interest me, and my mom knew that.

That kind of intuition is one of the many reasons why moms have always been special. They know, sense and feel things about their children that others -- including fathers -- never do. I'll always remember my mom telling me to follow my dream and she would always support me.

And I'm sure Kaysi will be Maddie's biggest fan, and she, too, will help her little girl achieve whatever her goal in life turns out to be.

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