Day 7 of Summer:
What day is it? Where are we supposed to be? How long have you been on that iPad?
All questions I've been asking myself the last few days. The kids are all out of school and we can finally take that break we've wanted since April, when we discovered we were skipping spring and had way too many commitments.
So here we are at the beginning of summer, already sweating our butts off and feeling like there's not enough caffeine. Nothing sounds better than a three-day nap. To be honest, I'm still trying to wrap my mind around the kids being out and coming down off the buzz of the last few weeks.
The first couple of days I had a nice warm feeling, like walking off a plane into Florida weather in the middle of winter. Not having to be somewhere at 8 a.m. is amazing. People are still getting up at the crack of dawn, but I don't have to threaten people's lives and we can ease into the day.
That calm warm place has allowed me the opportunity to feel my feelings and the overriding feeling is ... tiredness.
I think it's like when you pull an all-nighter and the next day you're fine but the following day it catches up with you. I have a last month of school hangover and I may need a few days to two weeks.
I will come to terms with the fact that a three-day nap is a pipe dream, it's fine!
Now I just want to lay out a giant paper desk calendar and see what exactly I've committed to. I need to see the whole summer. I know we have some day camps, extra-curriculars and summer sports, as well as a few tentative travel plans.
What are we doing all the rest of the time though? I'll tell you what we are not doing -playing Roblox, Minecraft and Fortnite endlessly!
I have a friend that put a two-hour-a-day limit on all the electronics. Yes! I have another friend that makes their kids earn time by doing chores, academic programs, completing specific tasks and achieving certain goals. Yes! All good ideas.
I can't decide what arbitrary rules I will cling to yet, but I know that there must be order and ... a bedtime.
I don't care if you don't have anywhere to be tomorrow, the only adults who sleep past 9 a.m. work night shifts and if you want to have free time, you need to earn it.
The last few days I've said "whatever" a lot.
The kids will fight me on everything, so I need to decide what rules help us all the most. What do we need to accomplish short-term and long-term? If they get the things done that need to be done, when they need to be done, with a respectful attitude, do I extend them the grace and freedom they ask for? Perhaps. After all, that's what being a grown-up is all about and that's what we are training them for.
Maybe if there is too much time for them to do the things we'd rather them not do and they can stay up until midnight, we clearly aren't challenging them enough during the day. Pushy mom says what?
When I finally wrap my mind around this summer transition and decide some things, I'll let you know.
My tentative plan is to keep these people as busy as possible, preferably outside, and ban electronics at 10 p.m. because that's when I'm clocking out.
No, you may not snapshot one more picture of the wall. I've rolled my eyes enough today.