All parents try to prove their love with different measures of support. Whether it's putting the kids' artwork up, framing the odd original, "enjoying" their culinary masterpieces or placing their weed bouquets in vases ... we care.
We try our best to make it to performances and go to all activities/sports, finding just the right positive thing to say even if it's praising the high-fiving of a teammate as the highlight.
I praise everything I can and smuggle their extra artwork out like I'm in the "Thomas Crowne Affair." If I didn't we would literally drown in a sea of crap made up of sight words written in every color of the rainbow and writing exercises I can't read. When accidentally caught, I act outraged alongside them like, "How did this treasure get in here?!"
Today, it was a necklace.
The boy made me a necklace last year, with colorful beads they made out of clay (I can't be sure) in school. I, of course, put it right on the day he made it and then I kept it and hung it up on the mirror in my closet.
I kept it, what more does he want?
Well, he came in this morning and asked why I never wear my necklace. It was made over a year ago and if I'm being honest, I feel like he could have done better. My brain struggles to find the right words to come out of my mouth, though.
Uhhhhhhhh ... because I don't want to break it ... I'm not a big jewelry wearer ... I don't want to lose it.
None of these are good enough as he's already fighting back tears. Oh sweet baby Jesus, I'm thankful for the heart in this one, but it sometimes comes with a price.
So, today I'm wearing the necklace to prove my love.
Now if everyone could prove their love to me by listening, arguing less and if you could not cry over ridiculous things, that'd be great.
One of them just started crying because they thought I had walked out of the house without them. Seriously?!
If only the beads on this necklace granted wishes ...
Jen Reekie was born and raised in Quincy and received a communications degree at the University of Kansas, which has come in quite handy as she communicates every day with four children who don't hear a word she says. This stay-at-home mom enjoys the challenge, though, and shares her experiences in this blog, "Mum's the Word." She welcomes your feedback, questions and stories about staying sane while raising kids.